As a fat chick, I try my hardest to have self confidence. I try not to let my weight limit what I do in life, but sometimes it's unavoidable. One such example is lingerie. I know I could wear sexy lingerie, but come on, would it really be that sexy? Some big women have no problem exuding sexuality and confidence, but apparently I'm not one of them. I was dating someone a while back and even purchased some sexy lingerie. I don't know, it seemed like a good idea, but I really didn't feel sexy (I didn't even end up wearing it for my boyfriend). Many retailers sell sexy lingerie for plus-sized women, and I think that's great. Some women have the confidence to pull it off. I just didn't feel sexy with my stomach rolls and big thighs. Yuck! I prefer to cover up, and not reveal all! I think there's some magic weight at which I love wearing sexy lingerie. I'm just not at it right now. I don't mean a weight near my goal or anything. I just feel sexier when I'm a bit thinner - I think it has to do with stomach rolls - eewww.
There has been more and more plus-size exposure in the media lately. One of my previous posts talked about how fashion week designers were choosing some plus-sized models to grace their runways. Many of these models even appeared in lingerie. I think it's great that the public is maybe starting to be a little more open to the idea of larger women, but I don't think I'm ready to bare all, and I don't think they're ready to see all. Although maybe the public isn't any more accepting than before. Tyra Banks is currently on the cover of People revealing that she's 161 pounds. I think it's great she's honest about her weight, but the issue is about how she's so fat at this weight. Fat at 161 and 5'10"? Please! She looks great at 161! Maybe the public needs more work on fat acceptance (if Tyra is considered so fat).
But I guess I can't complain too much because I had a hard laugh recently at the expense of a very fat lady (though to defend myself it was a fictional woman). I just saw a commercial for the new Eddie Murphy movie, Norbit. From what I can see, it's something about a big woman (played by Eddie Murphy) and her man (also Eddie Murphy). What me laugh so hard was the scene where they go to a public swimming pool, with the big lady in a bikini, stomach rolls and all. One of the pool attendants asks her if she's wearing any bottoms, because her suit is totally lost in the folds of her skin. With his comment, she lifts up her stomach to reveal her bikini and says, "Of course, I'm wearing bottoms. See?" That totally cracked me up because fat chicks can relate (which is sad). And this is why I don't want to wear sexy lingerie with my big stomach and have my man ask me if I'm wearing any underpants! How embarrassing!
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I have to admit, I love the feel of silk and satin and buy "sexy" lingerie for both myself and my boyfriend. No, I would NEVER wear it for a new boyfriend until I felt comfortable with him. I hate that there is so little support in the bust area, though. If I found something with a built in bra that actually fit, I would be very, very happy.
Terrific post -- Fat Doctor pointed me in your direction just the other day. I completely agree with many items you've addressed today -- from Tyra Banks being considered "fat" at 161, to not feeling very sexy in lingerie when too many rolls get in the way. (By the way, did you see "Shallow Hal" with Gweneth Paltrow in a fat suit -- the scene where she takes off her thong and tosses at Jack Black still cracks me up...)
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I threw away all my lingere. Looking at it depressed me.
It absolutely makes me SICK that Tyra Banks is called "Fat" @ 161 lbs... Oh, if I could see those numbers on the scale again, it would be heavenly!
& I had too much counter-conditioning from my ex-husband to rely on sexay lingerie; #2 seems to like me just fine au natural...
The man who loves you for what you are not what you wear is really your soul mate. You can lose weight for the purpose of body healthy, but don't try it if you want to make you look sexy in lingerie. Here I recommend a site for bbw only: www.largeplace.com. You may want to share your thoughts with them and listen to what they think about it.
I was married to an abusive man for nearly 8 years. Having had three of his sons 2 years apart consecutively did not do my waistline any favors. Diets, exercising, and even trying to train myself to have an eating disorder (yes it went that far) all failed. I endured years of fat jokes and comments. My favorite...He told me that sleeping with me was like having sex with a beached whale. Well, I am divorced from him and now I am with this wonderful guy. He loves me, I love him, and the craziest thing...he thinks I'm sexy. Sounds great right? He wants me to wear lingerie. The problem is that from what I went through previously, I still have low self-esteem. I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror none the less feel sexy in lingerie.
Instead of full-fledged lingerie, lots of "simpler" things turn men on, that fit any size.
Take classy high heel shoes, for example. Another sure turn-on is stockings. Jewelry. Any of these alone can make a great difference
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